DIVORCED INDIVIDUALS ARE BAD AT ATTENDING TO RELEVANT INFORMATION
Divorced individuals are bad at attending to relevant information(and thus, in turn, listening to their partners)
JohnO. Routt Jr.
Divorcedindividuals are bad at attending to relevant information (and thus,in turn, listening to their partners)
There are indications that people who are divorced tend to approachinformation in a manner that is quite different from those who aremarried. Such a case could be as a result of the emotional problemsthat they undergo during and after the divorce process. Studies haveconfirmed that the views that there is a close relationship betweendivorce the social behavior of people. Divorced women are moreexpressive of such kind of social behavior because they are moreemotional than men. There is, therefore, the need to support thosewho go through divorce so as to improve their decision-making andproblem-solving capacity.
Social relationships which are either quality or quantity are knownto affect mental health, physical health, mental health and risks ofmortality. Sociologists have established a link between socialrelationships and the health outcomes, giving explanations andvariation in race, culture, and genders (Rojas, 2014). Theserelationships also have short and long-term effects on health thatemerge during childhood, and it cascades throughout life. Studieshave shown that people who are romantic relationship enjoys a higherquality of life and lives longer compared to one that has a weaksocial attachment with other people (Case, 2012). Marriages are alsoa form of social relationships, and they add quality of life toindividuals who live in happy marriages (Rojas, 2014).
To compare married and divorced individuals based on behavior toconfirm if they differ in different social characteristics. Thegroups will be assigned tasks then a causal link will be developedbetween the two groups. The result will help to ascertain thebehavior of divorcees.
The null hypothesiswill be, ‘married and divorced individuals do not differ based onbehavior and social characteristics.’
Relationships are built on communication. Such communication alsoneeds to be of high quality and objective-oriented so that it mayhelp build the closeness of people and improve their capacity tocooperate into handling various circumstances and problems.Researchers also agree that in cases of divorce, the ability ofpeople to communicate effectively and respond to information normallybecomes hampered (Case, 2012). The said individual could showpatterns or reduced concentration and attention as well as the lackof capacity to process information, which could result inmisinterpretation or misrepresentation of the said piece ofinformation. He may, as a result, be less reactive to informationthat requires immediate attention such as knowledge that a givenperson is sick. The individual could also take lightly sensitiveinformation, which could involve passing around a piece ofinformation that was meant to be confidential and only shared among asmall group of people. Other forms of behavior may also includeextreme overreaction to information that is not quite bad. Themanifestation of such character could be as a result of thefrustrations that the divorcee has faced or a defense mechanism so asto avoid rejection by other people.
Cases of a poor approach to communication among divorcees becomeworse where a given person generally has poor communication skills.The divorcee could feel that other people fail to understand him, andcould link that to be the reason behind the situation that he is in.As a result, he could develop less interest in information that isshared by other people since he holds that the same persons are notinterested in his problems (Uglanova, 2012). Most often than not,women who go through divorce depict such kind of behavior more thanmen. The reason behind such is that women are more expressive innature and easily display their emotions. They will, therefore, failto consistently use reason when or immediately after they have gonethrough a tough moment.
Research has shown that divorce has an effect on the lives of people.People who have gone through this problem could turn out toexperience some psychological problems, especially in cases where hewas so much emotionally attached to the spouse (Umberson &Montez, 2010). It is expected that such effects could also manifestthemselves in other ways that are equally detrimental to the generalwell-being of the given individual.
Several studies have shown that married and divorced individuals havedifferent behaviors towards a particular phenomenon for instance, howthey react to stressful circumstances (Ateca-Amestoy, &Prieto-Rodriguez, 2013). Some have found that married people arebound to show a more stable behavior, perhaps because they areemotionally well and hold the belief that their spouses are there toassist them. The concept of stress-management is a phenomenon wherepeople are able to retain some level of sobriety even when they aregoing through very hard times (Line, Hanks, & Kim, 2016). Such acase is more reflected in behavior and routine in how people relatewith one another. Relationships are built more on emotions andpsychological input. Divorce results when the couple feels that theycannot tolerate each other due to mistakes one of them made. Somefactors moderate these two elements, for instance, personality,self-control, and the environment through building the capacity ofpeople to handle stressful situations (Uglanova, 2012). Though thereare not studies that have identified how direct or indirect theserelationships are. Emotions are known to heavily influence theactions that people take on a daily basis and generally, how theytreat others (Line et.al, 2016). There should be an understanding ofnuances of the relationships between these constructs needed toidentify ways which these factors should be mitigated to prevent theundesirable factors.
Given the fact that most people who have gone through divorce elicitbehavior that is inconsistent with norm., there is a need for them toacquire special attention so as to prevent them from drifting furtherinto much worse conditions that could be dangerous to them. The caseis, especially so in situations where the given person is female(Valenzuela, Halpern, & Katz, 2014). Several studies haveindicated that women are bound to display more emotions compared totheir male counterparts when they face the same situations (Case,2012). There are other reports that, however, argue that men arebound to suffer more because they lack the avenue to deal with thestress that they have and this could deteriorate into cases such asdepression and the general loss of interest in life. In spite of theopposing concepts, the one aspect that researchers agree on is thatunder the same circumstances, married people are bound to elicit amuch better emotional stability compared to those who are divorced.
There are indications that divorce has a negative impact on thepsychology of an individual and could hamper such a person frommaking sound decisions that would be applauded by others (Uglanova,2012). Better judgment is achieved when people are mentally healthyto think clearly and take actions that will be beneficial both tothem and others. (Line et.al, 2016). Such a process is highlyenhanced by people taking decisive actions that are bound to makethem remain emotionally stable through engaging in lots of exercises,taking good food, having enough sleep and generally socializing withother people so that they are in a good position to have a high levelof clarity in their minds and see things the way they ought to.
Research has shown that there is a direct relationship betweendecision-making and whether a person feels loved (Uglanova, 2012).Love and belongingness are an intrinsic part of a human being andthey need to be nurtured slowly by slowly until they are able toblossom and help complete the entire circle of a human being. Whileit is true that divorce has a chance of affecting an individual, akind of difference that exists between two persons is the willingnessand ability of one of them to take actions that will see him gobeyond what happened and take steps that will lead him towards apeaceful mind (Konstam, Karwin, Curran, Lyons, & Celen-Demirtas,2016). With time, such an individual is able to see a gradual changein terms of how he responds to various situations. Such measurescould also come in handy as a way of determining whether a givenperson has healed off from the effects of divorce and is able to takeformidable actions that will be of benefit to him.
It is important that those who unfortunately go through a divorceunderstand that the problem can affect their level of interactionwith other. Such knowledge will put them in a good position toconfront some of the issues that they may come across with dueclarity (Rojas, 2014). They could, for instance, end up makingdecisions that are sound. Such people could also be bound to becomeless aggressive and calmer, especially where they are dealing with acertain form of confrontation. The situation may be improved byhaving other people around them or have partners who could guide themduring such a face to ensure that they do not make decisions or takeactions that could end up having a great bearing on them in the longrun.
It may also be quite advisable for people who have gone through adivorce to attend counseling sessions so as to improve their level ofsobriety, especially when they are dealing with differentcircumstances (Case, 2012). Such a measure will be beneficial notonly to them but also to all others whom they shall relate with. Thesupport of people close to the divorcee could also be quite helpful.The more loved and appreciated a person feels, the more capable theindividual is, at making decisions that are sensible.
It is quite true that cases of divorce are generally quite hard tohandle and they way down upon many people. The implications of suchoccurrences are normally dire and could be long-lasting andfar-reaching, especially in cases where no steps are taken to handlethe emotional instability that normally comes with such cases. Thefindings of the research have clearly shown that these effects alsoflow down to touch on the aspect of the response of people to certainsituations. As such, this goes ahead to emphasize the importance ofpeople to take proper actions to ensure that the problem of divorcedoes not go ahead to undermine their quality of life (Schindler, &Sauerwald, 2013). Close friends and relatives of such people could beon the forefront to point out any forms of behavior that do not seemto be consistent with norms and advise such a person to seekprofessional assistance. It is, however, important to note that theprocess of coming to terms with the occurrence of a divorce andtaking steps to handle its aftermath is normally procedural andrequires both the willpower of the affected person and continuedsupport of all those who are close to the said individual. It is alsoimportant to note that the act of helping those who have undergonedivorce requires concerted efforts so as to ensure that high levelsof effectiveness towards the same is achieved.
The study shall, therefore, focus more on showing the impacts ofdivorce on the lives of people in a bid to prove that such peoplerequire extra care to enable them to attain much better standards ofliving than the one that they have (Schindler, & Sauerwald,2013). As such, they will be able to communicate well with otherpeople and be more understanding. They could also become friendly andform a character that will make other people be more willing toapproach them, which will go a long way in making them quite positivewith life.
The aim was to determine the group that would be able to showresponses that are in line with emotional stability. The data wascollected through recording the answers that were provided by therespondents so as to provide room for analysis which would be carriedout later on. Some of the questions that were mentioned to theparticipants which included both married (10) and divorced (10) persons were such as
What would you do if you heard someone shouting, ‘fire fire!’?
If you arrived at the train station and realized that you haveforgotten your phone at home and still have enough time, would you goback home to pick it?
If you visited a store with a friend and she experienced someproblems with her credit card and seemed to take a lot of time, wouldyou wait for her to complete sorting them out?
Differentparticipants had varying replies to the questions. However, the oneconsistent thing that the researcher noted was that most of themarried people seemed to have a calm approach to the questionsprovided. For instance, seven of the 10 married people (70%)indicated that they would go back for their phones if they happenedto forget them at home, provided they would not be late to where theyare going. Only 1(10%) of the divorce persons indicated that hewould do so. The results showed a cumulative correlation score thatwas < 0.05 on 95% confidence level for all the three questionsthat the participants were asked. The findings are shown in table 1.0
Table1.0 Respondents’ results
What would you do if you heard someone shouting, ‘fire fire!’?
60% of them would respond instantly by calmly but hurriedly getting out of the room
Only 20% 60% of them would respond instantly by calmly but hurriedly getting out of the room
If you arrived at the train station and realized that you have forgotten your phone at home and still have enough time, would you go back home to pick it?
70% would go back for the phone
Only 10% would go back for the phone
If you visited a store with a friend and she experienced some problems with her credit card and seemed to take a lot of time, would you wait for her to complete sorting them out?
80% would wait for the friend to finish up
Only 10% would wait for the friend to finish up
From the results, the researchers, therefore, rejected the nullhypothesis and, instead adopted the alternative hypothesis thatdivorced individuals are bad at attending to relevant informationcompared to married individuals
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